Thursday, September 14, 2017

5 Reasons We Should Be Kind

Through tears she said 'I just think we need to be kind to each other.'  This was one of the hardest things I have ever heard from my wife.  I had always thought I was a good guy, never harmed her or even though about it, yet something in how I was acting was giving my wife the reason to suggest that kindness was not being shown to me.  Decision time, right?  If kindness is important to someone I care about, it was going to be important to me.  Full disclosure - I am not one who is naturally kind so this was going to take some work.

Friday, December 16, 2016

The Power of Spiritual Habit

If you tell me what your habits are I can tell you what your life will be like in a few years.  I can't predict the future and I have no idea what events will happen in your life, yet I can predict with accuracy who you will be by what you habitually do.

  • If you save a certain amount of money each month for retirement, you will have financial peace in the future.
  • If you exercise in a practical manner and on a consistent basis you will have lower stress, a healthier heart and body.
  • If you visit with a counselor, read a few good books, journal and learn to communicate your feelings, you will have a stable emotional life and some strong relationships.

The things we do now that seem mundane develop who we are and our experiences in the future.  So if I may meddle a little, what will your spiritual life look like in the future?

Saturday, November 5, 2016

What is Coaching?

I am asked a lot, 'What is this coaching stuff?' Although professional coaching has been around a while, a lot of people have images of an athletic coach, a drill sergeant or a counselor want-a-be when they think of professional coaching. None of these images reflect what professional coaching is or provides.
The International Coach Federation uses the following definition of the coaching process: Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performance and enhance their quality of life.

The definition of coaching I prefer is : Coaching is a partnership that turns hopes and dreams into plans and progress.
In the true sense, a professional coach can help someone by listening, asking questions, giving attention to goals and helping them devise a game-plan to win at life.
Some topics for coaching:
How do I develop a spiritual growth plan?
What is the best way to set goals for my employees?
How can I improve my relationship with my brother?
What do I do to add value this week to my team?
How do I worry less?
You can see the potential coaching topics are endless, and they are decided by the coachee! That is the beauty, the coach is not dictating what the coachee should do, but together they are discovering a plan of action to tackle the need. Very, very cool indeed!  

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Do You have a Pre-Fight Plan?

According to Shawn Achor, former Harvard psychology lecturer and author of The Happiness Advantage, research shows that the brain is 31 percent more productive when it’s in a positive state than when it’s in a neutral or stressed state.  This is very important to remember when we are in conflict with anyone, but especially with our spouse.  

There are 4 very practical things we can do to deal with conflict that will move us toward resolution.  Each of these are a choice that we must make prior to the ‘heat of the moment.’  

1. I will choose to act and not react.